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9.08.2015"In a church culture, it's OK to talk about what you struggled with and overcame. It's not OK to talk about what you're struggling with and are overcoming."
Listening to Mental Mastery Mondays | Life Purpose, Productivity, and Self-Discipline (Let's Get Naked So We Can Get Better - Ep. 159): http://gocoastalmedia.libsyn.com/lets-get-naked-so-we-can-get-better-ep-159
When we're emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically naked, we're forced to be honest and real with ourselves. When this happens, we can't hide behind something we may normally use to cover them up.
Four Ways to Cover Up
Oftentimes we employ various strategies or justifications for keeping ourselves "covered-up" so we don't have to deal with the truth of our nakedness. I've diluted these down to 4 general areas:
- Making excuses for our imperfections
- Blaming others for our shortcomings
- Feeling Threatened by other's victories
- Overstating our own victories
Each one of these is focused on the external which is outside of control. That makes it really easy to ignore the issue and continue on as we have previously. But, this leaves us short of our best.
We can only improve ourselves when we're honest about what needs to be improved and we can only be honest when we strip ourselves of everything we're using to cover up. We must get naked to know what's really going on.
Finding Our Real Support Team
When we're naked and honest about ourselves we find out who our real partners are in life. We discover who's going to be there to help us move forward. This doesn't mean we rely on others to take us there, but instead, use their support to help us move there on our own.
Don't Fall Into Complacency
One big stumbling point we can fall into when we're honest about ourselves is complacency. By that I mean, we are honest about our flaws, but we're not challenged to deal with them. We must find that balance between being honest and being complacent.
Getting naked and honest about ourselves isn't about championing our flaws either. Be careful you're not saying "well, that's who I am. Love it or leave it." That will not lead to improvement either.
I hope this episode helps you get honest and naked with yourself so you can humble yourself enough to seek the assistance you need to overcome the areas that need help. There is no real gain is projecting a false success.
Listen to this episode and give me your feedback on how you've not been honest in the past and what you're going to do to change the situation.
I'm going to break my own rule to answer this question, which came to me for the fourth time this am:
G: You've been silent about Trump and Kim Davis. Are you going to weigh in?
No. This might sound harsh, so be it- I'll apologize later. If you are a person spending any minutes discussing your "faith-based anti-gay marriage" stance while terrified babies are slipping out of their desperate parents' arms and into churning, deep, dark waters never to be seen again . . . well, you're looking at the reason the world has become less and less interested in your "faith based anything."
Entering into relief work with the refugees = hard. Complaining about gay people getting married= easy. Stop choosing the easy thing and pretending that "defending God" is your cross to bear. God didn't ask you to defend God. God is bigger than you and doesn't need your protection. But God's CHILDREN DO NEED YOUR PROTECTION. God's children are dying for the hope of safety for their families. Shift your energy to them. Let us all quit acting like we have anything to do with the fact that we were lucky enough to have been born on third base, while millions are starving outside the stadium. Why are some Christians so obsessed with "saving" people until there are actually people who need saving? I would like to suggest that every Christian choose a faith tenant that requires HER family to change and to act and to sacrifice instead of somebody else's.
So no- you won't see me discussing gay marriage for the same reason you won't see me discussing the pros and cons of re-instituting separate water fountains for black and white people. Because it would be insane. We're done with that. The battle is won. I'm not going spend my time in museums talking to people hanging on to the bad old days by their fingernails.
And about Trump? NO. Not my circus- not my monkees. These are serious times and they call for serious people.
The two most repeated phrases in the Bible are FEAR NOT. REMEMBER. If any of your faith leaders is fear mongering, telling you to build walls instead tearing them down, instead of scaling them to feed hungry people, encouraging any sort of us vs. them mentality…THINK HARD. The Gospel says: Do not be afraid. Re-member. Re-member is the opposite of dis-member. When we shut our doors to our own family: when we are afraid of each other - we are dismembered. The kingdom of God comes when we treat each other like KIN. Like family. When we RE-MEMBER.
Fear not. Remember.
P.S. Guess who else were penniless refugees fleeing a dangerous homeland, trying to find safety and welcome on foreign soil? Jesus, Mary, and Joseph.
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